This holiday season, skip the hassle of returning unwanted gifts and embrace what you love instead.

Have you ever felt like you needed to channel your inner gift expert? We’ve all been there, especially when gifts from our partners miss the mark. Honestly, how many more heart-shaped items do we need?

No more forced smiles while opening presents! Here’s how you can guide your significant other to shop in a way that makes you truly happy, starting with clear and loving communication.

Open Up About Gift Giving

We get it: discussing finances is tough. But talking about how gifts are given and received can be even trickier. Understanding your partner's gifting style is essential, says a behavioral science expert. One may prefer extravagant gifts while the other may feel awkward about spending a lot on someone.

To learn more about each other's preferences, consider asking questions such as:

1. What’s the most memorable gift you’ve received? What made it so meaningful?

2. What’s the best present you’ve given? Why did it bring you joy?

3. Do you enjoy spending on gifts during the holidays? If yes, what do you love about giving? If no, what makes it uncomfortable?

4. What spending amount feels okay or not okay for you? Is there a difference in how much you want to spend on others versus what you’d like them to spend on you?

5. Do you prefer having a wish list when you give gifts, or do you like choosing freely? What about when receiving? Do you prefer a list or surprises?

6. If a gift you gave is exchanged, does that upset you? Why or why not?

We know this might feel like an unexpected conversation amidst holiday chaos, but discussing gifting, money, and emotions can lead to years of better exchanges. Expect gifts you adore, and your partner will likely feel the same.

Subtle Hinting Techniques

If you want to guide your partner without handing them a direct list, subtle hints can be effective.

One expert suggests: “When you spot something online that excites you, casually mention it to your partner, like 'Look at these earrings I love!' This helps them recall your preferences when they’re out shopping.”

If your hints go unnoticed and you’re still receiving items you don't want, take it a step further. Partners, especially men, often consult friends for ideas. So, ensure your friends are aware of your favorite brands or items so they can provide helpful suggestions.

If all else fails and your partner still struggles, feel free to be straightforward. Let them know you enjoy picking things for yourself and would appreciate a gift card to a store you love.

And if that doesn’t work, embrace radical honesty. Next time you receive a gift you’re not thrilled about, politely express, “Thanks, but this isn't really my style. I’d prefer something from this designer instead. Would it be okay to exchange it?”

Embrace Honesty for Happy Gifting 

Don’t settle for gifts you don’t cherish; honesty is crucial. If you don’t wear or utilize what they’ve chosen, being truthful now will spare them hurt feelings later.

Offer to shop together to exchange the gift. It’s a fantastic way to show your partner your tastes and prevent future gifting mishaps.