Considering parenthood soon? Here are essential steps to take before transitioning into a new role as a parent while safeguarding your career.

Jessica Grose, author of, “Screaming on the Inside: The Unsustainability of American Motherhood,” shared her experience of preparing for motherhood. She was married, debt-free, and had a burgeoning career, yet she found herself unprepared for the challenges of being a mom.

The primary issue? The U.S. makes parenting quite challenging. For instance, childcare costs can be overwhelming. A recent study from Care.com reveals that childcare expenses have surged. The weekly average for daycare is now $321 per child, up 13% from last year’s $284. In cities like New York, families can spend nearly 47% of their income on childcare — a situation that’s simply not sustainable.

Additionally, women generally earn less than men. When affordable childcare is not accessible, it’s often women who leave the workforce. A recent study indicates that 52% of stay-at-home mothers need affordable childcare to consider re-entering the job market.

These challenges, among others, hinder women from maintaining career trajectories after starting a family. “In the U.S., we complicate parenthood unnecessarily,” Grose states.

From career interruptions to lost promotions, what can be done to balance family and work? Grose offers three vital actions every woman should consider before welcoming a new child.

UNDERSTAND YOUR COMPANY'S LEAVE POLICIES

When Grose was expecting her first child, she had just started a new leadership role and soon realized she couldn’t maintain her job during her pregnancy. “I experienced hyperemesis, which is severe morning sickness,” she explains. “It felt like the worst stomach flu, but without an end in sight. This made it impossible to perform at work.”

Grose thought going on leave would be straightforward, but discovered she wasn’t eligible due to her short tenure. Fortunately, her husband’s health insurance allowed her to leave her job. “Without that safety net, I’m not sure what I would have done because I needed coverage for prenatal care and financial stability to have this baby,” she reflects.

Her experience serves as a cautionary tale for expectant mothers: Get clear on your employer's policies and assess how supportive they truly are for new parents. It’s wise to discuss with colleagues to get an honest perspective on the support available. Grose has seen situations where taking leave is frowned upon, so it's crucial to gather information from those who've navigated parenthood in your workplace.

REQUEST FLEXIBILITY WITHOUT HESITATION

Mckinsey describes “radical flexibility” for parents as allowing employees to reduce their work hours or shift to less demanding roles when needed, with the option to increase hours later.

When Grose had her second child, working from home on specific days and setting her own hours became essential. She’d often work after the kids were in bed or wake early to get some work done. Fortunately, her employer was supportive. “I maintained my hours, but sometimes I needed a nap during my lunch break. I was committed to my work, so there was no downside to accommodating my needs,” she says.

While pitching for flexibility can be daunting, it’s achievable. A CEO emphasizes the importance of showcasing your unique contributions to the team. “Identify what sets you apart and makes you indispensable. This focus will ensure your position remains secure, regardless of where you sit,” she advises.

ENGAGE YOUR SUPPORT NETWORK

Grose encourages new parents to recognize that seeking help is not only acceptable but vital. Many women struggle to reach out for support during tough times, yet Grose notes that friends and family are often eager to help.