Being a thoughtful friend is essential, but it can get pricey. Maintaining relationships with family and friends is crucial for our well-being. When we neglect these connections, it can negatively impact our health. With technology making communication easier yet less personal, it's vital to invest in real-life interactions.

A 2023 study from University College London highlights that lacking social connections can lead to serious health risks, emphasizing the importance of strong emotional ties for happiness and wellness. These bonds influence various aspects of our lives.

However, with the rising costs of socializing, finding ways to engage with friends and family can be challenging. While it may seem sufficient to stay in touch via texts, it's not the same as meeting face-to-face.

Set Clear Limits When Declining Invitations

According to data from The Knot, the typical cost of a bachelorette weekend now exceeds $1,000 per person. (An editor recently faced an $8,500 wedding in Aruba, which she and her partner turned down.) Even a $500 weekend might be too steep for some.

We've all faced it when friends invite us to an extravagant event that stretches our budgets. When saying no, friendship expert Danielle Bayard Jackson suggests using affirmative boundaries.

Instead of saying, 'I can't,' consider what you can offer. For instance, say, 'I can't make it this time due to other financial commitments, but let's plan a lunch date when you return,' or 'I'll join for part of the event and catch up later. How can I make it up to you?'

Setting financial boundaries can be intimidating, but true friends will understand your situation. They'll appreciate that you care about them, even if you can't join every expensive outing.

Don't Let Social Media Influence Your Plans

When organizing outings, reflect on your motivations—are you doing things for genuine enjoyment or just for social media? Many people say they'd reconsider their plans if social media wasn't a factor. It can subconsciously shift how we view our social interactions, which can add unnecessary costs.

There are plenty of ways to connect without splurging on high-end bars or pricey events. For example, suggest a 'hot girl walk'—grab a friend, hydrate, and take a leisurely stroll while enjoying each other's company.

Engage with a Simple Yet Impactful Question

Research from Civic Science shows loneliness is a prevalent issue, with 48% of Americans feeling lonely, a rise from 45% in 2019. As life gets busier, friendships can often take a backseat.

Allison Gilbert, co-author of The Joy of Connections, recalls how a simple question from Dr. Ruth Westheimer profoundly affected her: When will I see you again?

This question conveys significance and shows your friend that they matter to you. It highlights that you value their presence in your life.

Next time you ponder how to be a good friend, don't hesitate—ask your friend: When will I see you again?