Before you dismiss a chance for career growth, reflect on these four key strategies.

Years ago, I found myself at my kitchen table, scrolling through endless job listings. Each new position sparked excitement about my next career leap. However, when it came time to hit 'apply,' self-doubt crept in. Thoughts like, This is pointless and You won’t get it anyway flooded my mind.

As a freelancer in television, I’m accustomed to the job hunt. Shows get canceled, projects stall, and teams shift. Despite my familiarity with the hustle, I often fell prey to self-doubt and excuses when pursuing new roles. Thoughts like, I’m not qualified enough or I’ll just wait until next year plagued me. Even worse was the nagging feeling of being a fraud.

What drives our tendency to sabotage our own opportunities? I consulted a career counselor who specializes in empowering women to understand this behavior.

She explained that societal expectations often shape how women perceive career moves.

“We’re taught to be agreeable and avoid conflict,” she shared. “Women possess strong emotional intelligence, which makes us attuned to others' feelings. While this is a strength, it can hinder decision-making, leading to unhelpful self-doubt.”

Fortunately, she offered practical advice for overcoming excuses and taking action. The next time you hesitate about a significant career opportunity, keep this guidance in mind.

Identify Negative Language

If you often use words like can’t, won’t, should’ve, always, or never, your language may be shaping a negative career perspective.

Many executives don’t realize how harmful their self-talk can be. The first step is awareness. “Recognize how frequently you engage in negative self-talk,” she advised.

Another red flag is the word but, which usually precedes an excuse. A simple shift to and can change your mindset. It prompts questions like, Why not? or What other options do I have?

Accept That Timing Won't Be Perfect

Whether you're pitching a new idea, applying for a job, or contemplating a career shift, it's easy to feel you lack the time or energy. Instead of postponing, create a specific plan. Want to leave your current role? Set a deadline to make your decision. Searching for a new position? Commit to submitting five applications weekly.

Consider the Consequences of Inaction

“Staying inactive can feel comfortable in the short term,” she noted. However, if thoughts about pursuing a career opportunity keep resurfacing, it’s time to take notice. Reflect on whether you might regret not taking a chance later.

“Inaction comes with its own costs,” she emphasized. “It keeps you stagnant. Even if you're scared or feel inadequate, listen to those feelings. They might be nudging you toward necessary growth.”

Monitor Your Emotional Well-Being

If you’re feeling overwhelmed, take a step back and practice patience. “When you’re upset, you may not be in the right mindset to make decisions and could be more inclined to talk yourself out of them,” she explained.

Remember past instances where you overcame challenges or achieved something you thought was beyond your reach.

“You are resilient,” she reassured. “Recall moments in your life when you faced significant obstacles. Those experiences are likely the ones you look back on with pride. Keep those in mind!”