Let’s be real. How do your Zoom meetings typically unfold?
Are there a lot of dull “Hellos?” from lackluster coworkers? Do you hear parents shushing kids while juggling schoolwork? Or maybe a chorus of apologies about appearances breaks out?
I confess, our Tuesday morning meetings often start with the latter. Even in a women-led, empowering environment, we find ourselves critiquing our messy hair and unplucked eyebrows during a pandemic, often apologizing for it.
But why do we feel the need to apologize? Would anyone really respond to my “Please ignore my messy ponytail” with a “Yeah, that looks terrible?” Of course not. They probably aren’t even paying attention to my hair.
A recent article confirms that video chat insecurities affect many across the nation. Surprisingly, even high-ranking women in business are feeling the pressure to look good. Students are now turning off their cameras during online classes to avoid being seen in their less-than-perfect states.
Beauty standards for women have always been high. Social media and popular culture dictate that flawless makeup, hair, and outfits are essential. Despite the positive body image movements, the pressure lingers, even when we’re just a two-dimensional face on a screen.
Sadly, women often judge each other harshly, as noted by clinical psychologist, Barbara Greenberg, PHD. Would most men even notice if you wore concealer or not?
Greenberg doesn’t foresee the pressure to look polished while working from home easing anytime soon. After just three months of quarantine, a lifetime of societal expectations won’t vanish quickly.
On a positive note, what you contribute during meetings far outweighs your appearance. Bringing compelling ideas to the table matters much more than sporting a perfect hairstyle.
It’s essential to shift our focus from looks to our work. We should prioritize the quality of our ideas, the respect we have for our colleagues, and our commitment to doing our best while maintaining social distance. Yet, if you’re concerned about your appearance, consider these three tips:
Rest
Sleep can be elusive during this time. As anxieties rise, distinguishing between day and night becomes challenging. Prioritize sleep for better health.
Nourish
Consider your diet. Binge-eating chips because of boredom? (Same here.) However, healthier meals and hydration can enhance your natural glow that makeup can’t replicate. Plus, good nutrition boosts your energy and mental well-being.
Stay Active
With countless free workouts available, explore new routines or instructors. There are many budget-friendly options out there. You’ll feel better about that Netflix binge after a little yoga. And the next time a colleague comments on your “glow” during a call, you can proudly say, “Thanks, it’s sweat!”
If you’re feeling overwhelmed by the thought of being on camera one day, you’re not alone. Just suggest switching to a classic phone call instead.
Problem solved.
