It's crucial to nurture the most significant relationship we have — the one with ourselves. RuPaul famously said, “If you can’t love yourself, how the hell you gonna love somebody else?” We spend so much time with ourselves, so investing in that relationship is vital.

While everyone deserves some “me time,” retail therapy isn’t the only way to practice self-care. This year presents a fantastic chance to reflect on how to genuinely nurture our self-relationship. Here are three practical suggestions to elevate your bond with YOU.

Create a Meditation Routine

Meditation can be a way to become friends with ourselves. The Tibetan term for meditation, “gom,” translates to “to familiarize.” Meditation expert Lodro Rinzler emphasizes that spending time focused on our breath helps us stay present. Familiarizing ourselves with our true selves — both the light and the dark — encourages us to embrace solitude. Meditation allows us to acknowledge our thoughts, saying, “It’s okay; this is part of the journey,” and move forward. Rinzler notes that anxiety is widespread across all ages. By concentrating on our breath, we can train our minds to redirect focus instead of spiraling into negative thoughts.

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Rinzler points out that meditation is accessible to everyone and it’s free. Whether you transform a whole room into a meditation haven or find a cozy corner in your home, creating a conducive environment can boost your practice. Several meditation apps are available at no cost; Rinzler recommends Ten Percent Happier, Journey LIVE, and MNDFL. There are also numerous free guided meditations online. If you prefer reading, consider Eff This Meditation by Liza Kindred, Tea and Cake with Demons by Adreanna Limbach, or Start Here Now by Susan Piver.

Starting a new practice can feel intimidating. Though it may sound cliché, every journey begins with a single step. Establishing a consistent time for meditation each day can help solidify this habit. Integrate it into your morning or evening routine, and you might be amazed at how quickly it becomes second nature.

Consider Therapy

People often view therapy as a response to problems, but it can also help us craft the life we desire while alleviating stress from work or finances — common sources of anxiety. Matt Lundquist, founder of a therapy center, focuses on how emotional connections with money influence decisions and perceptions of love, power, and safety.

Although therapy can be costly, there are budget-friendly options. Lundquist suggests seeking centers with internship programs where therapists-in-training provide services. Many cities offer low-cost or free group therapy sessions, which can foster community and introduce new perspectives, benefiting your mental health. Lundquist stresses the importance of prioritizing therapy over non-essential expenses.

Lastly, be selective when choosing a therapist. If you find your current therapist isn’t a good fit, don’t hesitate to request a change. It’s perfectly acceptable to express your needs and expectations. The therapeutic relationship is collaborative, and you deserve to feel heard.

Explore New Interests, Meet New People

“In our digital age, it’s easy to feel isolated,” notes Liz Carroll, co-founder of a coaching initiative. Many individuals experience loneliness, and engaging in new activities while meeting new people can be revitalizing. “Networking while learning is a double win,” Carroll explains, suggesting community college classes or local art events as great options. Recreation centers often offer diverse classes, from languages to arts to fitness.

Putting yourself out there can be challenging. Start by listing your interests and the types of people you’d like to connect with. Then, sign up for classes, attend events, or try new creative pursuits. Carroll emphasizes the magic that happens when creativity meets community. Step outside your comfort zone and discover what inspires you.

Invest time in understanding yourself — you already hold the answers.